Going For Marriage Therapy? Here Are Three Things You Should Never Do

Going For Marriage Therapy? Here Are Three Things You Should Never Do

Wives…as much as therapy is meant to make things better, if it isn’t working put a hold on it
Constant name-calling, dirty fights are the most common signs of a toxic relationship. Readers chose constant name-calling and dirty fights between couples as the most common sign that all isn’t well in your relationship
A recent article talked about couples stuck in toxic relationships and the common signs that you are into one.

This made us conduct a poll on the different signs, asking which of them is deemed the most common of toxicity in a relationship. Readers chose constant name-calling and dirty fights between couples as the most common sign.
Results from the poll revealed that 41.8% of Pulse Readers chose constant name-calling and dirty, while 23.6% readers chose unnecessary and unexplained anger between couples and 34.5% said not being your true self when your partner is around is definitely a common sign that all isn’t well in your relationship.

Most times it’s always the wives who wants to go for therapy to rectify marriage problems because they are always seen as the emotional beings.
And when she tries to drag her husband, he tries to put up some kind of resistance because he’s okay with the way things are and doesn’t see reasons why therapy is needed.
Wives…as much as therapy is meant to make things better, if it isn’t working put a hold on it because you may just be doing the very thing that’ll make your marriage crumble.
Compiled by The Good Men Project, here are 3 mistakes which you may be making (it is coined as EHH)

1. E: Expecting him to be who you want him to be.
When you expect your man to live up to your unrealistic expectations, he will disappoint you every single time. Learn when it is okay to have expectations of him and when it’s not. I get it. You want him to reach his potential, that’s why you love him. But this is HURTING your relationship.

2. H: Hoping he will change and hoping your relationship will get better.
I see this one all the time. Hoping everything will get better. Hoping your man will wake up one day with a grand epiphany that he loves you and wants to learn and grow alongside with you to make your marriage better! Not so much. Using hope to improve your relationship is like hoping you make more money in your life or hoping you get happier—just by hoping! That will get you where you are—frustrated, fed up, and feeling like a victim.

3. H: Helping him when he’s not asking for it.
Ever try to stop an alcoholic friend from drinking every day? It doesn’t work and if it does temporarily, they are quitting for you, not themselves. The only way for a person to get sober is on their own. You can’t do it for them. Your husband doesn’t want help. If he did, he’d ask for it. Treat him like a grown up and trust that if, and when, he needs help, he will ask. It’s a small act of aggression on your part trying to help him when he never asked.